Adventures in Sex:
How to Make Her Crazy About You
By The Player Special Correspondent May 3rd, 2000
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I recently met a woman that I'm extremely attracted to. I met her through friends at the local coffee shop and since then, I cannot keep her out of my mind. From the beginning, we both flirted with each other through eye contact and touching. Eventually, I asked for her phone number and we started talking to each other every night. We've gone out on a couple of dates now, but the relationship cannot go past the friendship level. Recently, she has been talking to me a lot about this man that works in her building. I get the impression that she might be attracted to him. The last thing that I want is to be a shoulder for her to lean on. I know that the two of us would make a nice couple so how can I make her crazy for me and realize that we might be perfect for each other?
Human nature is very strange. People believe that if something comes at a low cost, it probably has little value, while if things are more difficult to possess, they are automatically of better quality and more valuable. This is where the expression, you get what you pay for, comes from. In other words, people judge things based on what they must give up, rather than what they could earn. Still not convinced? Ask yourself why certain groups such as the armed forces, sports teams, work teams, and even gangs require initiations before accepting members? This is definitely not just for the pure fun of having them. In fact, if you look deeper into the root of initiations, you will see that they serve a very important function. Initiations are sometimes raw, cruel, grotesque and demeaning. The purpose is to make it hard to obtain membership into the group. Once the new candidate becomes a member, he will appreciate his membership with greater loyalty. After all, he did have to pay a big price to become a member by going through the initiation process. In the end, he will reason that if he spent a lot of effort in order to become a member, it must be because the group has high value and is well worth the trouble. The same principle applies to the dating game. In general, a woman will always cherish a friendship, but she will always go crazy for that charming for whom she had to work hard to get.
A man should never let himself be taken for granted. This usually happens when a person is perceived as having lower value. In general, you should take the necessary steps and eliminate anyone who is not willing to pay the price required to deserve you, from your life. For a woman to perceive your value, you have to make her put some work into hanging out with you, for her to value your presence. You can do this by making her do favours for you, such as picking you up at home or paying for your dinner. By doing favours for you, she will convince herself that it must be with good reason and that you must be a nice person, which explains why she cares for you. Scarce products are perceived as more valuable (i.e. gold, diamonds, rare baseball cards). People place more value into things that require more work and effort to achieve. If you are "rare" or becoming more "scarce", people will view you as more valuable. By not always being around your girlfriend, you will be perceived as scarce and hence, more valuable. You can use the following suggestions to increase your value:
Do not always spend your time around her. In fact, you should be willing to withdraw your time and attention
from her from time to time. Once in a while, cancel dates and don't always return her phone calls. If a woman does something that angers you, do not be intimidated; let her know that you are angry (without losing your head). Men that do not stand up for themselves lower their value because women perceive them as free rides. Let women know that you have morals you strongly stand by and if they are not followed, you will not hesitate to end the relationship. For example, let her know politely that women who try to play head games with you are kindly escorted out of your life without hesitation.
A woman will only have true passion for a man when she thinks that she is capable of losing him. By showing a woman that you are not chained up or addicted to her, you are conveying that you are confident and will not let yourself be taken advantage of. On the other hand, if you put up with her abuse, head games and disrespect for you, she will never experience the stress of possibly losing you and the passion will slowly disappear.
In general, women are emotional creatures. There is no better way to get a woman stirred with emotions, than by being a charming and romantic friend. Why not get those emotions focused on you? The best way to sweep a woman off her feet is by writing poetry. A woman will always be impressed if a man takes the time to express his feelings into patterns. If you are not much of a poet, you can always recite poems from famous poets and explain why they mean so much to you.
Introducing some competition into a woman's life will make her realize that you are worth more than she may think. It makes you more attractive in her eyes, causing her to believe that she will have to work hard to get you. This is called survival of the fittest female. This can be accomplished by inviting other female friends to join you on your dates. You can also add fuel to the fire by having names and numbers of other women around your house, car, and even popping out of your wallet when paying for dinner or lunch. If this doesn't get a woman jealous, it will definitely keep her on her toes. If she asks you about all these friends, simply say they're friends of yours, trying to win you over. The first rule that every man should know is that scarcity brings value. Still don't know what I mean? Economics taught us that supply and demand determine the price or value of an object. This means that you should never make yourself available to a woman at all times.
When a woman thinks that you are easily attainable, your value drops big time. Hence, it is your duty to make sure that you know how to walk the walk. Confidence works in two ways, so let her know that you like going for what you want, and will move away from what you don't. By following these simple guidelines, I guarantee that any woman will go absolutely crazy with her desire for you. For more information, check out “Stop Chasing Women And They Will Come”.